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Best gay dating app to find Asian guys? I'm a white guy in my 20s who is trying to find Asian guys in Southeast USA (Tennessee) but it is very difficult. I've used Grindr, Jack'd, and Blued (heavy chinese usage) but to not much success. Just another guy who struggles with women and becomes racist. No different from the racist white guys who complain about black men dating white women. I assume this dude has no issues that many Asian men fetishise white women. Instead of being a pathetic racist he needs to lose some weight. It's another thing to say you only find Korean and white men attractive. I've heard a lot of Asian women say their 'preference' is white guys. It always sounds go me more like an infatuation and desire to be closer to whiteness that has created that preference. And the white guys they pick usually aren't even remotely attractive. Well as a gay guy: when I was 15, a lot of white men would try to groom me, same thing happened to all my other desi friends, back then most of us were in the closet, 13-18 and coming from conservative Families, didn’t have anyone to turn to so a lot of older white men who knew this would prey on brown and black boys.
I know, I hate to bring race into things but I’m unsure where else to post this that may actually help me?
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Now that I’m getting older (23F), dating is harder. My ex and I decided to officially separate and even though I’m still young, I’m finding it hard not to be insecure. Things were so much easier in high school which is the last time I had an open dating pool... I never thought of the things I do now.
I am in college but my classes usually consist of white and Asian males (engineering major)... I think I’m overthinking because of the last Asian male I dated telling me that he was worried about bringing me to meet his parents as since I am mixed (black and white) female, he’ll probably get disowned. This has happened to me a few times before during my high school/early adult age.
I want to start dating again but I can’t seem to shake this feeling of just being undesirable due to my race. I know part of this obsession is due to trauma from my childhood from being a darker mixed race female but I was never nervous about it with dating. I embraced the diversity but now that people are dating to marry and settle down to have children... I’m scared. And I don’t want children either.
I guess I just want to be desirable? I’m really unsure. Any thoughts?